tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post1127042423329769400..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Lead Balloonmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-77158978711488378942010-03-08T20:22:03.310-06:002010-03-08T20:22:03.310-06:00Say it with me. "That's your choice.&quo...Say it with me. "That's your choice." I learned this from Love and Logic - it's called the broken record. No other response! <br /><br />This is why I love Love and Logic books - they help me retain my calm. Even if they don't always apply to my kids.<br /><br />More practice: When when they ask for something like having a girlfriend over,try, "Not right now." Only if they ask why not, would you say, because of what happened last week, or because you're in the FAIR Club, or because I don't want to. Then you disengage and walk away. Don't explain again or get involved in their argument. <br /><br />Threats always get a, "that's your choice," but sometimes I'll warn them of the consequences of that choice. (ex. "That's your choice, but if you break it you'll have to pay twice the cost of replacing it" or "but I'll have to invoke the 4 foot rule" or "ut I'll have to call the police"... you get the idea). But I only say it once and I try to keep it from being a threat, more of an empathetic reminder.<br /><br />Marymarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-7169654044648846582010-03-08T18:42:08.768-06:002010-03-08T18:42:08.768-06:00The calm reaction was great! You get around of app...The calm reaction was great! You get around of applause AND an atta boy! The only way I am keeping calm with MK is by saying absolutely nothing. Would you share some calm with me?GB's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08866513131959998883noreply@blogger.com