tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post1754344569936512226..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Expectationsmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-62563612836215329972009-09-03T19:52:12.116-05:002009-09-03T19:52:12.116-05:00Just found your blog and I wanted to tell you that...Just found your blog and I wanted to tell you that this post really spoke to me. My son was in an adolescent psychiatric unit for 17 days last Dec. (it was supposed to be a 3-5 day stay, but he showed his true colors and they thought they ought to keep him a bit longer). He functions at about a 6-7 yo level (on a good day) and looks like he's about 10 - but he's actually 15 now. So, he's hanging out there with all of these big kids with horrible attitudes and what do we get back 17 days later? A foul mouthed brat who has decided that he will "do anything and say anything he has to do to get a new family". You know, one without rules. He thought nothing of calling me a f'ing b--ch as I walked by. He called his sisters filthy names too. It took months, but we don't hear that language out of him. It was like teaching a toddler all over again though. Now his home-based therapist wants to send him to a facility where he would have lots and lots of freedom that he does not have here - because he cannot handle it. He is not capable at this point of making appropriate choices and putting him in a facility that would allow him these freedoms, then sending him home in a few weeks or months where he WILL NOT have these same opportunities to lie, steal and wander the city with little to no supervision will be a disaster for the rest of us. I think you did the right thing by forewarning this person of your experiences. I think that MY expectations of mental health services was way out of whack and I'm learning that the help that is out there may be of no consequence to my child.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.com