tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post5715771460829273574..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Lather, Rinse, Repeatmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-69485703652942544972013-11-24T00:31:10.484-06:002013-11-24T00:31:10.484-06:00I see. But still, it'll be up to her, at least...I see. But still, it'll be up to her, at least to some extent, when she wants to spend that one on one time with you. You can't punish someone for refusing to be with you the minute you may want them to be, especially if they're an adult and you can't legally force them to. Maybe if you compromised with her and spent those one or two hours with her doing something SHE enjoyed, she might be more agreeable to it. It may not be something you enjoy, like watching Annoying Orange with her, but if it entertains her and makes her more willing to be around you, I'd say it's worth a try. Or maybe you could break up the one or two hours of time with her and have small amounts of time with her throughout the week, so she doesn't feel forced to be with you at a set time for a set amount of time. I understand that you're hoping that her reactions to the addition of this new "stressor" will show others that she needs more services, and I think that that's a good quest to pursue--getting her the help she needs. But I also know that she may not be in favor of this new arrangement and may resist if she feels forced into it. Just something to think about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-50864826054517455332013-11-23T13:27:31.903-06:002013-11-23T13:27:31.903-06:00Anonymous - ?? I'm not asking her to spend 24...Anonymous - ?? I'm not asking her to spend 24/7 with me. I'm only asking for 1 or 2/7! I don't have a problem with her having her own space. marythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-58340932489028999422013-11-23T00:11:14.446-06:002013-11-23T00:11:14.446-06:00Everyone deserves some alone time every once in a ...Everyone deserves some alone time every once in a while. Why should Kitty be any different? Would you not like her to have any time to herself? A normal person can have the odd bout of alone time without it harming them. I know that she spends a lot of time away from you, but what's the big deal about her being with you practically all the time? If the others can have their own space, why can't she?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-4316521133502095802013-11-22T16:17:00.250-06:002013-11-22T16:17:00.250-06:00There are several appeals to GAC:
* She grew up i...There are several appeals to GAC:<br />* She grew up in a chaotic environment - it feels normal to her, even though the stress triggers her. It's very common for kids of trauma to like scary, gory, adrenaline-pumping...<br />* It's familiar. Kitty HATES change!!!! One reason I wanted to push the school to help her find another job was that I knew that without the push, she would stay frozen there forever. Another reason I'm pretty sure she'll never actually move out. She claims she wants change, but it terrifies her.<br />* Everyone there tells her she's a typical teen and there are not a lot of expectations or criticisms (real or perceived).<br /><br />I like the idea of restricting where she can use the iPod, and we've actually tried a variation of this. Her biggest complaint is that she uses it for music to fall asleep and as one of her alarm clocks to wake up (one that she's less tempted to throw). She has alternatives (CD player alarm clock) though. Hmmmm....marythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-34937300225475307612013-11-21T23:16:00.220-06:002013-11-21T23:16:00.220-06:00It's interesting that she does not want to sto...It's interesting that she does not want to stop working at GAC, even though it is a stressful environment for her. What's the appeal?<br /><br />Also, you've mentioned that she isolates in her room with her iPod a lot. What about making a rule that her iPod stays out of her bedroom and she has to use it in an area like the living room instead? Just trying think of some creative ways you might motivate her to spend more time with family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com