tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post6553443466633367258..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Potential letter to biomommarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-2064076391061067292009-01-10T07:55:00.000-06:002009-01-10T07:55:00.000-06:00Great letter and I think a well person would make ...Great letter and I think a well person would make the right decision but obviously she's not quite right. I agree that you can't expect well behavior from a sick person. I wouldn't share anymore than absolutely necessary. But whatever you decide I support you.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16146320008307628429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-54105138478471782262009-01-09T23:46:00.000-06:002009-01-09T23:46:00.000-06:00I don't know this woman but if she is anything lik...I don't know this woman but if she is anything like most of the bio parents that loose their kids to the state she is dumb as dirt and there is no way she will help you on this. When in doubt don't, is my motto. If you can't find peace about letting her see her biomom then don't do it. I sure don't envy you in this, but I can tell by your posts about Kitty that you will make the right decision for her.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18183426821328179143noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-20459792585871499742009-01-09T18:04:00.000-06:002009-01-09T18:04:00.000-06:00I think you give biomom too much info and too much...I think you give biomom too much info and too much credit. <BR/><BR/>I think you confide too much about Kitty's recent flare-ups and too much about your personal situation (the comment about the economy) that she does not deserve to know. She is not your friend or confidente. She does not need to be anything to you, ever! (Even though she very likely will be involved in your life over the years.) I agree w/ Tracey, do what's best for Kitty. <BR/><BR/>I think you're giving her too much credit because you're treating her like a rational adult. Remember, she's the nutcase reason you've got her kids in the first place. Don't assume she can behave like a grown-up now, she certainly didn't in the past. <BR/><BR/>Run the letter idea past the professionals before you hit "send." And like Lorraine said, whatever you do we're here for you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-49543895619993584962009-01-09T17:07:00.000-06:002009-01-09T17:07:00.000-06:00I don't have any good advice for you (or even bad ...I don't have any good advice for you (or even bad advice other than run away!) I just wanted to know that I am here for you. I have learned that it's hard to find good therapists in Texas, so if you have good ones, hold on to them. Anyway, good luck and know you have friends who will stand behind you no matter what you do.Lorraine Fullerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18261836409037993044noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-13674368391143615852009-01-09T16:38:00.000-06:002009-01-09T16:38:00.000-06:00I think this is an excellent approach. You're bei...I think this is an excellent approach. You're being honest about your feelings and asking her to help you do the best thing for Kitty. It allows her to make a decision that POSITIVELY affects Kitty's life (as opposed to her previous parental decisions). It might even give her her own sense of closure, and it also lets her feel selfless - "I wanted to see Kitty but I knew it wasn't best for her at this time." <BR/><BR/>Regardless, no matter what her response is to this letter I still have the opinion that you should not let Kitty see her, especially given the problems Kitty has had lately. The bottom line is that you are responsible for doing what's best for Kitty. Not what's best for you, or for Birthmom... for Kitty. And, given the things you've shared recently, putting this emotional burden on her at this point in her life is quite possibly not what's best for her.<BR/><BR/>Good luck. I certainly don't envy you this decision but I know you'll do the right thing.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08015920394106992361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-70284408487008157982009-01-09T15:36:00.000-06:002009-01-09T15:36:00.000-06:00Holy crap. The visit is supposed to be the day bef...Holy crap. The visit is supposed to be the day before she starts a new school??Torinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00992090842674056507noreply@blogger.com