tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post6827046320253568372..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: "Run Kitty Run."marythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-21349716417301152882014-06-10T19:21:15.073-05:002014-06-10T19:21:15.073-05:00I'm sure that along with reinstating the struc...I'm sure that along with reinstating the structure and rules if she returns home, that you'll also warmly welcome her back with open arms, to show her that she is still loved, was missed, but that you're glad to have her back, right? I hope things work out well for her, whatever she chooses to do. For now, enjoy your time with Bob.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-17618790240776558402014-06-10T12:52:02.121-05:002014-06-10T12:52:02.121-05:00Miz K - Kitty was adopted from foster care. I don...Miz K - Kitty was adopted from foster care. I don't feel it's appropriate to tell you details about birth family's current situation. Two things to remember - mental illness is genetic and Kitty's trauma issues come from trauma. Suffice it to say that technically Kitty knows that she will not be able to fix things for her siblings, but she wants to. She has a lot of idealized memories of her past (that this might help to resolve) and has a tender heart for the sisters that she lost (the older two were about 4 and 7 I think when she saw them last, and the youngest was born after Kitty's adoption). Due to distance, finances, hospitalizations, instability... she's only seen/met her sisters once since leaving foster care.<br /><br />After the newness of family reunion wears off, I have no idea what will happen. If she gets SSI then she could be a "bread winner" for the family. She could easily be expected to be a live-in babysitter.<br /><br />Anonymous - our insurance requires her to be a dependent. If she gets SSI, she will no longer be our dependent, as we cannot claim her as such on our taxes. If she moves out and is not a full-time college student, she is no longer a dependent - especially if someone else claims her on their taxes. This is what Hubby was told by the HR department for his new contract job. marythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-3801452855221152942014-06-10T12:14:52.399-05:002014-06-10T12:14:52.399-05:00If you adopted her, then I don't think you ca...If you adopted her, then I don't think you can legally take Kitty off your insurance until she is in her 20's. She is your child and your responsibility no matter where she lives or who she lives with. It's the law. You know this, right?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-57783322339024925882014-06-10T06:14:31.557-05:002014-06-10T06:14:31.557-05:00What does she think she needs to rescue or protect...What does she think she needs to rescue or protect her sisters from? If it really is an unsafe environment (I'm picturing everything from a basement meth lab to sketchy characters drifting in and out) then she's walking right into disaster. At the very least, she's going to be without a job, with no transportation and no way to pay for her meds. After the newness of family reunion wears off, she'll be what? An unpaid babysitter? <br />I can't help wishing you'd gotten legal guardianship for her. And her hit-and-miss use of birth control is very disturbing.Miz Kizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650747741395559803noreply@blogger.com