tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post7313178193637459868..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: A scary weekendmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-80138635762646985332010-11-04T09:58:37.622-05:002010-11-04T09:58:37.622-05:00Could your husband be suffering from the middle-ag...Could your husband be suffering from the middle-aged blues? It seems to hit guys at about 45-55. Their is a real hormonal component to it, just like menopause in women, and it can make them feel pretty glum, as if all the good stuff is behind them and now it's a slow crawl to the grave.<br />Your husband needs to see a doctor if he's having leg pains. He needs a healthier diet and he might need medication for depression. <br />The treadmill probably isn't the best form of exercise for him. A doctor could recommend something more appropriate, like swimming or bicycling. My own hubby is a rabid cyclist. He's in several bike clubs and sometimes on the weekends he peddles over a hundred miles a day. The fresh air, the exercise, the companionship with other guys all make him happy.<br />I really think your hubby needs an outlet for the stress he's having right now. The talk about dying might be a form of wishing that all the problems would just STOP, not that he wants to die.Miz Kizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650747741395559803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-20525882153080249432010-11-03T12:44:47.934-05:002010-11-03T12:44:47.934-05:00Pre-existing conditions shouldn't apply if the...Pre-existing conditions shouldn't apply if there is no lapse in coverage. I don't know that for sure since it's a private policy and not group health. You may want to double check on that.<br /><br />I will never, ever discourage anyone from being prepared for the end of their life. No one ever knows when that may be, but it's never good to stress over the anticipation...just be prepared. Update your wills, life insurance, etc. and do it often (every couple of years, or more often depending on situational changes).<br /><br />{{{Praying}}}Tara - SanitySrchrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11389093745334636867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-32916640048363091602010-11-02T08:03:29.124-05:002010-11-02T08:03:29.124-05:00This comment has been removed by the author.stellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-82202761607342670662010-11-02T08:03:08.463-05:002010-11-02T08:03:08.463-05:00Oh, I can not even imagine what it would be like t...Oh, I can not even imagine what it would be like to not have healthcare, we complain about our system but something is better than nothing and I never, ever have to worry about it. Yes sometimes the lines are long and the waiting is a pain but if you really need treatment you are moved to the front of the line and it is all free, well not free because our taxes are higher but there is no out of pocket expense. I hope that whatever you decide that he begins feeling better and that you are able to get him the right treatment.stellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-65168615525161157742010-11-01T23:30:06.345-05:002010-11-01T23:30:06.345-05:00The bottom line is your husband is not a doctor. H...The bottom line is your husband is not a doctor. He doesn't have the training to self-diagnose (and you don't have the training to medicate him.) Perhaps if he tells the doctor to please not record the diagnosis, and explains why, the doctor might be willing to record a less-severe variation (should he actually have anything "severe".) <br /><br />But from what you've said, he is working on killing himself right now by creating even more stress than there actually is -- if his leg doesn't get him, his heart will. <br /><br />You know, men can show depression differently than women do. He may be depressed. He may be overly anxious (the Tums kinda speak to that). <br /><br />But really, ask him which costs more. Going to the doctor -- even if you pay the full amount -- or being hospitalized for a while without insurance because he could have treated something sooner but didn't?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-37169243219338193252010-11-01T11:45:20.056-05:002010-11-01T11:45:20.056-05:00I'm sorry for all the troubles with health ins...I'm sorry for all the troubles with health insurance. We have been down that same path. My husband is self-employed, and my employer doesn't offer benefits to part-timers. I was on COBRA for a long time (from an old full-time job), but it was running out. Since we had moved out of state, we did not qualify for COBRA extension (?!). So we were stuck.<br />The Obama plan is supposed to be phasing out the denials for pre-existing, but it's only for kids right now, and adults won't see it until 2014. After the run-around and denials for my (actually pretty run-of-the-mill) pre-existing conditions, we finally said screw it and formed our own corporation with his business. If the insurance companies are going to work hard to deny people for any little damn thing, then we have to work harder to catch them in their own loopholes. <br />By naming me a partner and and giving the corporation "two employees," you can qualify for a group plan. Group plans are great, in that no employee can be denied for pre-existing conditions, and you can cover dependents (if you need/want). Group plans can't be cancelled like individual plans. You have more rights. Voila. Problem solved. We got coverage within days. Start with a good underwriter that will walk you through this process of forming a group plan for a business partnership, or you can start by applying for your own business tax ID on the IRS website. We had to file in the country for the "new" business, open a separate bank account for the "new" partnership, and pay our insurance premiums out of that, but that's the extent of the extra work we had to do.<br />We had a lot of choices from our underwriter, HMO, PPO, etc. It just depends on what you're looking for, and how much you want to spend (btw, you know the premiums are tax-deductible, too...).<br />It's stupid that you have to jump through so many hoops, but you do what you gotta do to protect your family's health. I'm so glad we figured out this process. We had been losing sleep, so stressed out about this.<br />PLEASE send your hubby to the doc! His health is more important that any of this bureaucratic b.s.!schnitzelbankhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16353695238159527112noreply@blogger.com