tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post8334339389574771002..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Why I don't go to churchmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-4235964389553582402012-04-29T07:15:49.535-05:002012-04-29T07:15:49.535-05:00Churches are made up of people, both good, bad and...Churches are made up of people, both good, bad and indifferent. There are churches where the congregation is tolerant and caring and there are churches like the one Rick Santorum visited in Lousiana when he was campaigning there where the minister, a Reverand Terry, announced that all non-Christians, liberals and woman who have had abortions should be thrown out of the U.S. <br />I imagine Jesus, if he were to return today, would have a thing or two to say to say to Rev. Terry.<br />Ghandi once said that he liked the Christian religion but he didn't like most Christians. I agree with him. People often seem to think that simply going to church makes them superior to those who don't. These folks like to boast about how "their" God is "awesome," as if everyone elses' particular deity is second-rate. There are others who attend big, flashy megachurches because they are bored with traditional churches and want a more exciting experience. Then there are the haters who use certain Bible passages as an excuse to despise gays, blacks or women who want educational and job parity with men.<br />Maybe you need to find a different church, one with a support group where you can share about your problems without worrying about taking up too much time from the worship service.Miz Kizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650747741395559803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-84979131971261218142012-04-26T05:24:45.790-05:002012-04-26T05:24:45.790-05:00Thank you Mary. Nope, not on FB - lots of crazy r...Thank you Mary. Nope, not on FB - lots of crazy reasons why not. You are always welcome to email me at greenelisam@gmail.com!Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-41974374027462688672012-04-23T09:07:40.327-05:002012-04-23T09:07:40.327-05:00Thanks Lisa. Are you on Facebook? (Please don...Thanks Lisa. Are you on Facebook? (<i>Please don't say we're already friends there. Please don't say we're already friends there. Please don't say... </i>) I'm finding that I'm really appreciating the support I'm getting on FB, even if it's just a lot of "Likes." At least I know others are listening at 1am when I'm reading/writing, and I can respond directly to others with lots of details when I have time versus having to get dressed up for church or when I'm in the middle of dealing with a child's meltdown. <br /><br />We can vent and pour out all the crud (in private groups or messages), without having to worry about giving an earful to someone who doesn't get it or overwhelming the one or two local people who get it, but are dealing with their own stuff.<br /><br />My little sister and her husband just don't get it, and I doubt anyone at their church does either. Even if they do try to understand, it's overwhelming to someone who doesn't live it (it's overwhelming to someone who does) and I'm always afraid someone is going to see me, a relatively healthy, able-bodied person sitting on my butt, and assume it's because I'm lazy and making it all up (easy to do when my charming RADs make it look like they're fine), when in reality I'm so overwhelmed I don't know where to start.<br /><br />If we're not already FB friends, I'd like to be. My name there is Mary Themom.marythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-63386569227929156812012-04-23T06:48:33.775-05:002012-04-23T06:48:33.775-05:00Many of our opinions on these subjects are directl...Many of our opinions on these subjects are directly affected by our life experiences - or lack of those. I don't think everyone is all right or all wrong.<br /><br />I don't even want to identify directly with any political party - I'm not an "all or nothing" kind of gal. I am conservative in many ways and do think that the church and community SHOULD be our support system. The reality is that this isn't so. There is all too much judgement going on and frankly, some of it isn't too far off the mark. I know I get sick and tired of helping certain family members who just lack the motivation to get off their butts and help themselves after years of support by me and the community - but the catch is, I know they aren't mentally ill. I don't want to carry the judgement and resentment I may feel about a few over into other peoples lives because frankly, I don't have a clue what's going on with their lives and in their minds. I guess the bulk of my frustration lies in the fact that in my county, there is no money for adequate mental health services. I have been treading water for years with a few of my kids and I HATE IT!!<br /><br />As far as the church goes - it was refreshing to hear that I'm not the only one who sees the hypocrisy and lack of support. I am not the kind of person you want to say, "How are you?" to unless you want an earful. I feel like crying when asked that question because I know I am supposed to just say, "fine, and you?" and yet I just can't do it. I mumble and walk away or just turn the conversation onto the other person instantly because I know that I am a burden to them and their average or above-average life. <br /><br />I think if you have even one person in your life that is walking the same path as you and gets it - you need to treasure that person and be there for them 100% - otherwise you will be very, very lonely.<br /><br />Sorry to vent - I do think you have some very valid points.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.com