tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post8885885041355446598..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Chores, Responsibilities, and Other Things My Kids Can't Handlemarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-40123263239754971232015-06-24T13:49:31.384-05:002015-06-24T13:49:31.384-05:00If you comment with your email (which I will not p...If you comment with your email (which I will not publish!), then I can email you a copy.marythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-69898811903472573512015-06-24T12:26:44.302-05:002015-06-24T12:26:44.302-05:00Do you have a clear copy of the chore chart?Do you have a clear copy of the chore chart?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-4073757892766851962012-08-09T09:01:41.273-05:002012-08-09T09:01:41.273-05:00Thanks for the explanation. You must care a lot or...Thanks for the explanation. You must care a lot or at least have pretty tough skin to get a 16 year old (Bob) to do chores regularly. <br />I don't doubt that Kitty can't handle it because of immaturity, and works better on lower age restrictions. I was just wondering how a regular teen could possibly listen to parents enough to get far on the system (which seemed to defeat some of the purpose). I didn't ever seem all that defiant growing up but I'd still do chores pretty rarely, and virtually never at anyone's request (2 people, 1 house, really not many chores period, did them when I was the one who needed dishes or some such). And I grew up with a mood disorder so I couldn't do much like that on demand just from depression.<br />I've read your blog for awhile and can't help but gawp a bit on how many restrictions you have on your kids, even though it makes some sense and it's your situation and works for you. Even if I disagree a fair bit, you have some good ideas, you really care, and I can't help but feel for your kids.<br />I wish you'd mention more about what it is Kitty does well, skills, hobbies. In the chaos for her several diagnosis she must have some small talent? :)Adrianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241808969525097518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-59723044027097977282012-08-05T23:11:33.065-05:002012-08-05T23:11:33.065-05:00Adrian, that's pretty much my point. She'...Adrian, that's pretty much my point. She's NOT a typical 16 year old. A 16 year old SHOULDN'T need to be monitored in terms of hygiene, and SHOULD be able to have friends of either sex over and watch PG-13 movies without becoming totally dysregulated. Bob (now 16) can handle all of this stuff without needing any of this regulation (Ponito at 13 mostly can too). Kitty (chronologically 17, but emotionally and socially only 6yrs) can NOT handle this. <br /><br />This level system was created for lots of reasons, but mostly to show others that we've tried to treat Kitty like she is her chronological age, and she is unable to get past level 2 and really is often stuck at Basic. Once we established this over a period of a couple of months, we felt we had enough evidence that Kitty needs a much more structured and supported life, and we dropped this level system. Kitty now gets the "age-appropriate" privileges and responsibilities that she can really handle without having these unattainable privileges dangled over head. <br /><br />Marymarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-55514977296071713662012-08-05T22:38:52.580-05:002012-08-05T22:38:52.580-05:00I'm pretty sure I couldn't handle that whe...I'm pretty sure I couldn't handle that when I was 16. If the end goal is teenage privilege doesn't it go with the idea that its being used on teenagers? Who will scoff at being monitored in terms of hygiene, much less having only same sex friends over or having a bedtime?<br />If they can't regulate themselves well enough to actually need an enforced bedtime, then they aren't 16.<br />I'm sorry to dismiss your idea, but you're inappropriately restrictive to such a degree I had to say something.Adrianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08241808969525097518noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-32260828470307511502011-09-27T06:12:33.616-05:002011-09-27T06:12:33.616-05:00Hope it goes well, hang in thereHope it goes well, hang in therestellarparenting.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04975942737904876508noreply@blogger.com