tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post9027902169376308355..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Letter to Kitty's schoolmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-5411672644643980972011-03-09T12:59:15.862-06:002011-03-09T12:59:15.862-06:00Wow, you were not kidding about Penelope and Kitty...Wow, you were not kidding about Penelope and Kitty being similar. Now, Penelope's grades are not that great but from what I'm hearing that is the only big difference. <br />I hate that feeling of when you feel your child is headed to the psychiatric hospital again. You just want to do everything you can to stop it. To me it definitely sounds like Kitty isn't feeling safe at school. The psychosomatic ailments are a diversion/avoidance technique to get sympathy. Similar to how she wants her friends to feel sorry for her. Penelope is EXACTLY the same. And she picks girls that want to make her their pet project - NOT good. I used to get a lot of calls from Penelope at school because of this ailment or that problem. I pointed out to her teachers that last year, Penelope had a "safe place" to go when she felt overwhelmed or unsafe to calm down and regulate herself. She doesn't have that this year because her Intervention Specialist doesn't have her own classroom. After figuring out a new "safe place" and limiting her ability to call me requiring her to depend on them to help her, she started feeling safer and her ailments began to improve. <br />The other thing that could help - maybe in lieu of a social class, is a Problem Solving Grid. I will put it on my blog. I love it because, one - it makes the child own their problem, two - it's kind of a consequence to have to sit down and fill it out with her teacher without being a direct punishment, and three - it shows the child that they do actually know the right thing to do but made a bad choice which builds confidence. <br />Oh, also the missed assignment thing. That is EXACTLY like Penelope too! We brainstormed that one during our last "team" meeting and figured out it is all about that black and white thinking. It's all done and/or perfect or it isn't going to be turned in. It's turned in on time or not at all. Her teacher had to go through her binder and pull out all these missing assignments that were for the most part completed but just not turned in and it helped her grade go up.RADMomINohiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16479673428163793816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-79456305244128600382011-03-08T00:59:54.440-06:002011-03-08T00:59:54.440-06:00THANKS ELIZABETH!!
MaryTHANKS ELIZABETH!!<br /><br />Marymarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-23833438702143720842011-03-07T19:31:28.084-06:002011-03-07T19:31:28.084-06:00real name alert at the bottom??real name alert at the bottom??elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03256249327727796236noreply@blogger.com