tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post2300976349210117215..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Best of the Worst Parenting Advicemarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-84616949618791284402009-09-30T23:03:43.148-05:002009-09-30T23:03:43.148-05:00AMEN to "all kids do that" BS.
I was tol...AMEN to "all kids do that" BS.<br />I was told that my eldest was just being like a normal boy. Yea. A normal taking-everything-in-site thoroughly drug-addicted boy. And my girl, yea, they all act like that. Til she did cutting and was quickly diagnosed as severely depressed. Yea. They all act like that, it isn't any big deal, they will grow out of it IF THEY LIVE LONG ENOUGH. What really gets me is that it was the teachers and even some of the doctors who were telling me this!<br /><br />I'm not sure if I was ever told "don't let it escalate" but I know that there were times that every single thing I did or did not do, said or did not say, was an excuse for escalation. I guess the best response for these people is "Wow! Do you have any idea how lucky you are? It is so nice to meet someone with such special kids because there are days I really wonder if I'm trying to live in a fairy-tale world. We just aren't there yet."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-48058878032937501672009-09-30T18:38:38.196-05:002009-09-30T18:38:38.196-05:00Two comments:
First, write a book! Wow, now tha...Two comments: <br /><br />First, write a book! Wow, now that's an idea with some serious possibilities... better not dismiss that suggestion, Mary.<br /><br />Second, the reason we parents of "normal" (using this word due to lack of creative alternatives right now) teens say things like "they all do that" is because it makes US feel better! Our "normal" kids are driving us nuts, too, and to hear that other parents are going through the wringer with their teens make us feel "normal" and we hope that saying "they all do that" will help you feel "normal" too. IOW, we're well-meaning (which in my family we say "mell-weaning" because anyone that "well-meaning" is probably pretty mixed up.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-42247731152070812932009-09-30T06:46:54.961-05:002009-09-30T06:46:54.961-05:00Mary,
Thank you for starting this post out as a co...Mary,<br />Thank you for starting this post out as a comment, and continuing it here. You are an awesome resource for RAD parents, and if there is anything we can ever do for you, let us know. I'm thinking you may want to take that post and make it into a book. There aren't that many good books out there from a parent's perspective.Billhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10028127727577061532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-40078045657038237412009-09-29T22:39:02.137-05:002009-09-29T22:39:02.137-05:00Ugh, "they all do that" is the same as s...Ugh, "they all do that" is the same as saying flat out... you do not know what you are doing. They do not all do "that" for 4 straight hours and at the highest level of intensity and day after day after day.<br /><br />Don't let him escalate. Wow, profound! If only I knew! Seriously though, I don't have that luxury. I get no warning I just get explosion. My kid goes 0-60 mph in under one second! <br /><br />Gotta love it! I know people mean well, they just don't get it. Maddening, and makes the mom feel worse! As if that were possible!The Accidental Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00409271721074309249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-15292523842273955442009-09-29T19:33:42.393-05:002009-09-29T19:33:42.393-05:00Your description of the "they all do that&quo...Your description of the "they all do that" comments reminds me of trying to convince my dad that his father was showing signs of dementia. (My dad was in complete denial.) <br /><br />Yes, lots of people accidentally back their car into things. Yes, we all forget words from time to time. Yes, everyone has days where they wear the same clothes from yesterday or don't brush their hair. Yes, older people do sometimes miss parts of conversations due to hearing loss. Of course everyone gets stressed out or loses their temper once in a while.<br /><br />At the end of the day, though, those symptoms don't all happen to the same person, in the same week.<br /><br />Even normal things (not rages, etc.) can add up to paint a picture where something's seriously not right.r.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16308261231346881996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-85231696007324737852009-09-29T19:01:13.966-05:002009-09-29T19:01:13.966-05:00WELL SAID. My little guy is 4, and we get the same...WELL SAID. My little guy is 4, and we get the same thing all the time. That it's just typical 4 year old behavior. I just politely tell them that no, he takes it to a new level. <br />And he's only 4.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02295714433164887820noreply@blogger.com