tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post374744095327879634..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: When an Adult Child Moves Outmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-82091718615557751502019-02-04T16:14:09.999-06:002019-02-04T16:14:09.999-06:00Thanks for your comment, Oliver.
I'd like to...Thanks for your comment, Oliver. <br /><br />I'd like to address a couple of things that you mentioned. <br /><br />Just to be clear, Kitty and I have had many, many conversations over the years about meds and changes. I'm fine with her adjusting/ changing her meds as long as it is under the supervision of her psychiatrist. The problem is that she is going against medical advice. For example, she has decided that because her body reacts negatively when she misses a dose of one of her medications, that that means she is "addicted" to it and therefore, she should go off of it immediately. I can't convince her that the opposite is true. She just doesn't believe me (or the doctor). Her grasp of reality is severely distorted.<br /><br />I will admit that she is doing much better than I expected in this new situation. She is much more emotionally regulated than she has been in the past. <br /><br />I thought that her prior dysregulations were from the stress and fear caused by living away from the caring support she received at home. However, way more than I realized at the time, the almost immediate negative problems associated with her prior moves out of our home appear to be more from the triggers and stress of living with biofamily. She's still under stess and I still don't think living with a functional (so far) alcoholic is a good idea, but I believe that's why she exceeded my expectations of how long she would last living with the bf.<br /><br />I worry a lot about her future marriage, but I think she does too and that's why she set the date for almost 2 years away.<br /><br />Being on Medicaid does mean that she is eligible for free transport to medical services. Unfortunately, she had a bad experience with this and refused to use the service ever again (The driver showed up 2 hours before his scheduled arrival, which was already 2 hours before her appointment as required by the transport service, and became irate when she wasn't up, dressed, and ready to go at 6:15am).marythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-19218589456678204832019-01-27T15:26:10.771-06:002019-01-27T15:26:10.771-06:00This does sound pretty disrespectful. Just saying ...This does sound pretty disrespectful. Just saying as a normal person, I've only met one or two people in my life who were actually mentally ill and not 'had 6 diagnosis conspicuously not including the mothers anger issues which were the sole cause of 5'. Ive met a good dozen who are suddenly and utterly sane minus the effed parents. As an outsider its hard to gauge, are a girls issues autism or the utterly normal reaction of a kid who was locked in her bedroom with garlic to gnaw on if she ever got sick? Compounded here by adoption and how many things she has like borderline iq that would make life skills challenging no matter what.<br /><br />I'm surprised she's done so well for herself over the years though. Sorry for the ramble, wanted to stand up for the bf a bit as someone whose dated someone with a personality disorder. I know you said her meds were 2k a month previously, getting to 1k of stuff is an amazing accomplishment. Instead of reacting with the fear you deserve to feel after ef knows how many hospitalizations, talking to her about how her meds affect her and support going down on the most unpleasant like say what's making her overweight would be a start. Or looking into what bipolar safe medicines for focus she might be able to take and improve her ability to work or study. Just respect her autonomy a bit more. Maybe go to the doctors together on a bus a few times, it sounds like that skill would benefit her a lot and its intimidating at first. At least in my state there are free medical taxi services to those on state insurance, learning to book one and do some independently might help her. What if she's dealing with low level incontinence or a sexual side effect with some of the drugs? I'd gnaw off a toe before admitting around my mom I peed myself! <br /><br />Anyhow, just thoughts. Good luck to Kitty and good luck to you on keeping the craft nook well into the future.Olivernoreply@blogger.com