tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post4265449681451698469..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Letter to Bear's Schoolmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-78067664760219732792012-04-11T09:31:28.408-05:002012-04-11T09:31:28.408-05:00Miz K - the only reason I want the school to follo...Miz K - the only reason I want the school to follow through on consequences is to reinforce the lesson that real life is going to pound into his head a billion times over - if you skip work and appointments, you will be fired and lose services. Granted he'll get this lesson many times in the future, but I was hoping that he would learn it was a universal truth, instead of "mean people picking on him" and that he "can and should manipulate the system." It was why I was so disappointed when he got off with no consequences from the first ticket. <br /><br />I know in his case nature dealt him just as nasty a blow as nurture did (no pun intended with the "blow" comment). I'm not sure how much better off he would have been if we'd had him since birth.marythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-4543637199754542562012-04-11T08:45:22.565-05:002012-04-11T08:45:22.565-05:00Even if the school did what you want and barred yo...Even if the school did what you want and barred your son from joining the wrestling team (I'm not sure what grounds they'd have to do this, but just suppose) and if he were given some kind of consequences for his tardiness and absenteeism, what would it achieve? <br />Sadly, he's 18 and no longer living under your roof. Like it or not, you don't have any control over him, as far as I can tell. Expecting the school to notify the police if he's seen driving a car is highly unlikely, and if he did get a ticket for driving without a license, do you think that would be somehow be a wakeup call to make him a responsible adult?<br />I understand your frustration over your son's situation. It's shared by many families who adopt older children and even some who adopted their kids as infants. It makes me wonder if nature has the upper hand over nuture in the old debate.Miz Kizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650747741395559803noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-7638107677201735182012-04-10T15:48:57.283-05:002012-04-10T15:48:57.283-05:00Consequences at school? Unheard of! I'm being ...Consequences at school? Unheard of! I'm being sarcastic. I feel your pain. I just left a 2 hour meeting with Penelope's intervention specialist about consequences and why is it so hard. But all we can do as parent advocates is be the squeaky wheel. Unfortunately.RADMomINohiohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16479673428163793816noreply@blogger.com