tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post6561424241030112576..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Answering some commentsmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-18526195860224429152010-02-24T10:22:41.192-06:002010-02-24T10:22:41.192-06:00Attachment in adults: I think everyone has some i...Attachment in adults: I think everyone has some issues with attachment, it's just a matter of how/when we handle it. Even Hubby has some issues, and he grew up in a "typical mid-West, 'normal,' 2 parent 2 kids family, with a dad who was the 'strong, silent type.'"<br /><br />Least Restrictive Environment: I think this is yet another case of trying to put a square peg in a round hole. I'm (mostly) sure this program helps some kids, but it's just not designed for my kids. If my kids aren't being consistently violent or out of control then it works against them. Of course no one even notices most of their issues because they don't "match the criteria", as you said, "flying under the radar." <br /><br />The worst part is that as they take steps toward healing they lose their services, so we're being punished for making progress. *sigh*<br /><br />Mary in TXmarythemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-72309747211898124172010-02-23T14:14:47.593-06:002010-02-23T14:14:47.593-06:00Wow, reading your answer to your first comment was...Wow, reading your answer to your first comment was eerie, it was like listening to a description of me! And in the same way, it was my hubby who really helped me gain confidence and be able to relax a *little* more around people in general. Part of why I love him is that he knows the "real me" that it's so hard to let ANYONE see, because I am always trying to be the perfect *insert role here*, and he still loves me. And he's still here. 6.5 years later. Amazing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-11361775885161367192010-02-22T16:37:54.939-06:002010-02-22T16:37:54.939-06:00"least restrictive environment" ha!! Wh..."least restrictive environment" ha!! Why do they not take the parent's input more seriously when it comes to this standard? I am so sick of hearing about what my son is entitled to - he has enormous entitlement issues already, he doesn't need to hear about all the things he should be getting to do when they haven't got a clue. My son needs intense supervision -he's proven that. What about the other kids in school who are entitled to be safe from my son's crazy rages when he doesn't get his way? I sound like a punitive mother don't I? I think it comes from years of watching people make excuses for him (when he can't think of a new one) and dismissing his horrid behavior. I see how it makes him worse and worse every year. Yes, kids like mine and yours need adults to listen to them and advocate for them, but there are limits to my selflessness. I want him to have accountability, even if he doesn't like it (why would he?). I cannot believe how much he gets away with. He'll admit to my face that he asked people for their leftover food at lunch, on the bus, wherever, and the teacher will SWEAR up and down that he had nothing extra - he's really good at flying under everyone's radar.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14612523674452864077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-9104447839083752242010-02-22T12:57:01.475-06:002010-02-22T12:57:01.475-06:00yes, my personal therapist thinks it is possible t...yes, my personal therapist thinks it is possible that I have some attachment issues myself, or at least had them growing up. It was never safe at home. ever. There were times when foster care was discussed but never acted upon. My mother was and still is, unwell. I'm sad for her but awfully glad to no longer be "under her spell".Integrity Singerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09196095126605205738noreply@blogger.com