tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post6923181573964161193..comments2023-12-26T17:10:25.915-06:00Comments on Muddling through Mayhem: Re-uppingmarythemomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08205319256573120866noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-65421591597476447842011-12-16T16:07:00.112-06:002011-12-16T16:07:00.112-06:00This is very similiar to the contract that RTC had...This is very similiar to the contract that RTC had Bug sign..I really like it.Baggagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10987676583881923076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-80511412920021140262011-12-14T12:44:06.597-06:002011-12-14T12:44:06.597-06:00it's a pretty contract. but like our attorney...it's a pretty contract. but like our attorney said of cease and desist letters, i think they're written for people who are functioning on the level where they would work.<br /><br />i'd be curious what you perceive the consequences of breaking the contract would be. maybe i missed them, but i would think it would have to be in plain written language if you expected Bear to know what they were. <br /><br />the other thing? you're going to find it hard to control the sexual behavior outside of your home. at 18 he'll be legally old enough to engage in that activity if he chooses. and he may think he's ready for a monogamous relationship--or completely reject that lifestyle. and he can.<br /><br />i truly do understand the frustration--BTDT and doing it again! it's hard to find your path into their young adult years. what we did with Sonny? told him you will do A, B, and C in exchange for D, E, and F. if you choose not to do what we ask (which was minimal--take his meds, go to school and pass or work full time, not harrass)then he was old enough to move out. <br /><br />he did both. stayed until school was over, found a job and moved out. that was nearly 4 years ago. it has not been perfect, but he is responsible for his own choices. there have been some that were extremely interesting, but life has a way of teaching lessons mom and dad just can't....regardless of how embarrassing mom and dad found it all!<br /><br />good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3852422397272068136.post-23739218635849854422011-12-05T07:21:01.778-06:002011-12-05T07:21:01.778-06:00Somehow, from the way you describe him, I don'...Somehow, from the way you describe him, I don't think documents or any written material have much of an impact on Bear. He doesn't seem to be much of a reader and I suspect he may sign on the dotted lines without really paying attention to what the contract means.<br />The contract is too long and too vague in many regards as to what, exactly, is expected of Bear and what, if any, penalties will occur if he fails to comply.<br />Believe me, I'm a lawyer and I deal with contracts all the time. Most of my clients' eyes glaze over when they're presented with contracts. Contracts are, in a word, boring.<br />I know a lot of therapists who work with teens simply adore contracts but I suspect that kids don't feel the same way.Miz Kizzlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05650747741395559803noreply@blogger.com