This blog is my place to vent and share resources with other parents of children of trauma. I try to be open and honest about my feelings in order to help others know they are not alone. Therapeutic parenting of adopted teenagers with RAD and other severe mental illnesses and issues (plus "neurotypical" teens) , is not easy, and there are time when I say what I feel... at the moment. We're all human!

Monday, May 9, 2011

Weighty Thoughts

This has been a long week (yes, I realize it's only Monday), but I did finish quite a few things on my "to do" list. Now all I have to do is survive the rest of the week. The kids are nervous about me leaving Wednesday for the ACT seminar. I never did find anyone willing to drive with me, but I'm a big girl and can make the drive by myself. Just more fun to have company.

Making it Right: Trauma and Attachment Disorders, What Really Works?

Presented by;Lark Eshleman Patterson, Ph.D.

Advocates for Children of Trauma

Location: Mercado Event Center

1500 N Main St. Suite 300

Fort Worth, Texas 76164

Date: Thursday, May 12, 2011

Time: 9:00 am – 4:00 pm

Registration Fee $50.00

Lunch on your own

Nursing and Social Work CEU’s Available

Given the complexity of developmental disorders associated with early attachment traumas, clinicians, parents and treatment team members all need a wide range yet cohesive approach to diagnostic and treatment options.

Still to do:

  • Pack for seminar in Fort Worth

  • Finish reading The Explosive Child. So far it describes the kids exactly. Now if I can just find the time to get to the part of the book on how to treat it!

  • Attend Kitty's pdoc appointment, therapy appt, and skills trainer appointment on Tuesday and Wednesday

  • Pay traffic ticket - had taken care of it, but forgot to include copy of driver's license and they sent it back - too late to take Defensive driving. *sigh*

  • Make weighted blanket for Kitty - 16 lbs. 128 squares - 1lb per 8 squares – 1 bag per 4 squares - after figure out what went wrong with Bear's blanket

  • Write school letter for Bob saying absent because ill on afternoon of Wednesday, April 27th

  • Change out for spring bouquet - still have the Christmas one on the front hall table!

  • Paint front door - Ok, not really high on my list

  • Job hunt - also not high on my list because Kitty is still only attending school for 1 1/2 hours a day. I've been enjoying the 1 1/2 hour volunteer work I've been doing at the school.

  • Talk to NE DHS worker about NE Medicaid about covering partial day psychiatric hospitalization and the paperwork needed to extend TX Medicaid to 19

  • Find ear cleaning stuff for Kitty's ears (doc says they have to be cleaned EVERY day from now on. It's so messy we haven't even started.

  • Make GI appointment for Kitty?

  • Make eye appointments for all


  • Clean under kitchen sink - we had a garbage disposal unit that sprayed dirty water everywhere - for years. So nasty and moldy.

  • Sew buttons on seat belts - those little plastic buttons that keep the metal part from sliding down the belt to the floor.

  • Write FAIR Club book - in my spare time

Completed items!:

  • Pay overdue MUDD bill

  • Get Cashier’s check for traffic ticket

  • Bake cookies for the Advocates for Children of Trauma Seminar:

  • 5 2/3 doz carrot oatmeal

  • 6 doz Sugar Cookies

  • 14 ½ dozen Chocolate Chip

  • 2 dozen Oatmeal Raisin Choc Chip - Crispy

  • 2 ½ dozen Oatmeal Raisin Choc chip

  • 6 ½ dozen Oatmeal Raisin

  • Pick up Bear’s new med. Add Trazod*ne and remove Clonid*ne

  • Move kitty litter to below stairs - now that Hubby uses his study more often our scaredy cat won't "do his business" when the room is occupied. He's started peeing on the pool table cover and any other plastic he can find - at least he's a cat, not a kid!

  • Car inspected

  • Bear weighted blanket - 21lbs. 128 squares – 1lb per 6 squares – 1 bag per 3 squares.

  • Clean out Kitty's room - finish before she's released from psych hospital

  • Wash river rock - actually pea gravel - used for the weighted blankets.

  • Sort river rock - measure correct amounts into baggies to make even distribution on weighted blankets easier.

  • Grocery shopping/pharmacy/ pick up money order

  • Mail traffic ticket paperwork and check

  • Lunch with STS

  • Clean carpet in master bath - try to get rid of the smell of poo

  • Take care of Service engine soon light so can get car inspected

  • Send everyone e-mail about Bear's twitching and Kitty not being stable


Anonymous said...

y'know, if it was me, I wouldn't be putting *pea* gravel in the weighted blankets. ...

marythemom said...


Didn't work anyway. She's such a restless sleeper that she dumps it off almost instantly. Plus it's so heavy that she can't put it on herself (which is partly because we were using the heavier weight sample blanket, but is probably true anyway). Not sure what to do now.