This blog is my place to vent and share resources with other parents of children of trauma. I try to be open and honest about my feelings in order to help others know they are not alone. Therapeutic parenting of adopted teenagers with RAD and other severe mental illnesses and issues (plus "neurotypical" teens) , is not easy, and there are time when I say what I feel... at the moment. We're all human!

Friday, August 27, 2010

Why I blog




Wednesday was my little blog's 2 year anniversary!




Coincidentally I got to have lunch with 2 fellow bloggers. One of my good friends, Struggling to Stand, and frequent commenter, GB's mom. I also got to meet GB herself and GB's Dad, who is a new blogger.






Meeting GB was fun. She was fascinated by my hot pink heels (even took pictures of them and said goodbye to them!), and was ultra charming. She barely sat still and never met a stranger (which made me so nervous - I'm overprotective and never let my kids out of my sight and she flitted everywhere!). I realized I've not been around other people's RAD kids very often, and I have to admit it was kind of nice to be on the charming side of RAD for once.




I do understand how other people can be so suckered in by RAD kids. GB seemed to make her mom seem strict and a little stand offish (of course she had a lot going on and she was still absolutely lovely!). GB was uber sweet, but I was paying attention, and GB got in a few little jibes. I know most people wouldn't have even noticed them. Yup, exactly what my son does to me, and how he acts around other people - as though they're absolutely amazing and mom is a second class citizen and a shrew.




GB's dad is starting his own blog, and he asked me why I blog.






  • Venting - as posted in my very first post, I blog to keep from over burdening my friends and family. I have the "three vent rule" which means instead of ruminating and focusing on all the problems, I limit the number of times I talk about any one incident to three times and I try to spread around who I complain to.


  • Tracking - I like to keep track of what's going on in my life. I can look back and see progress, remember when certain events happened, and keep track of incidents that otherwise I might forget (like when I need to update the kids' life histories.


  • Support - Keeping my family up to date, asking advice from others who "get it" and a different perspective from those who don't.


  • Just like Cheers - "Sometimes you wanna go where everybody knows your name."


Lisa from Life in the Grateful House and I connected because we adopted our children in the same month from the same state. They were out of state adoptions for both of us, and she finalized way before I did so she had some great advice for me in what to ask for. She introduced me to blogging with the blog Pioneer Woman I loved her series Black Heels to Tractor Wheels and read the entire blog from start to finish. I was hooked. Then Lisa started her own blog and next thing I knew she'd talked me into doing it too.



The rest, as they say, is history.

5 comments:

Mama Drama Times Two said...

Happy Blogiversary. Loved hearing how it all began for you. I was losing my mind trying to parent a young man with RAD and searched the internet for foster/adoptive/RAD info - and found Lisa's blog among the first 3 or 4 blogs I had ever seen. I read for a few weeks and decided to give it a try - and I, too, have been hooked ever since. Cute shoes BTW.

marythemom said...

Thanks!

I only wear heels. I love them. These shoes actually used to be Kitty's, but she was always complaining about how high they were and how they hurt her feet. I finally took them away from her. They were in good shape cause she never really wore them for long. Ironically, Kitty and I wear the same size shoe. If they'd been Bob's shoes I'd have been out of luck.

Mary

J. said...

blogger does not like me and keeps eating my comments.

I wanted to say congrats on 2 years! Blogging is sometimes the best sanity break I get and I would be lost without all the wisdom I find from other mamas so I hear what you are say.

Megan said...

I blog for all of those reasons too! I get more positive feedback and support from my blog than anywhere else!

GB's Mom said...

I can't tell you how much I enjoyed our lunch. Congratulations on your two year anniversary!