- Trauma, history, diagnoses... issues. All of which Kitty takes with her everywhere she goes of course. She's working on these, but it takes time... a looong time. We're running out of time, so can no longer only do "trauma work" in the Summer, like we used to try to do.
- Family. She has come very far with her attachment issues, but family life still causes stress. We've removed a lot of the stressors, but don't really want to remove more.
- School. Kitty is outgoing and loves school, but this is still a major cause of stress in her life, and it's one we have very little control over. It's not that school is the ONLY cause of her stress, it's just the only one that still has room to manipulate.
She appears to be able to wear her full armor as long as she only has to deal with 2 of these. No idea what that means for residential treatment. By removing Family, is she going to be able to hide what's going on underneath so well that it looks like she shouldn't even be there so she'll get sent home, or will she be able to process her Trauma better because we've removed one or two of her stresses.
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Speaking of school, Lisa commented that she was surprised Kitty was still doing well in school. The truth is she isn't. When she's in school she usually gets 100s on classwork (which are more about participation), but she's failing the tests and quizzes. Of course she hasn't actually been IN class in weeks. She spends a lot of her time talking to the behavior staff or in the Learning Lab. I think she's getting work done there, but...
First six weeks she had equal As and Bs. Second six weeks she had 3 As, 2 Bs, and 3 Cs. Third six weeks is almost over. She's barely been to class. She has 2 As, one incomplete and all the rest are failing.
One of the As is in Team Leadership (a general ed class. She has all 100s. I get the feeling that's the only grade you can get).
The second A is in Special Ed History. She only has 2 grades in the class (both 90s) and all the other assignments don't have anything next to them at all. I'm assuming they're all missing so she isn't really passing.
The incomplete is in the only other class that also gave her an A last six weeks. This is the teacher that 2 years ago told me that she wasn't allowed to flunk Bear - even though he most definitely deserved it (26 going into final exams, failed finals, but still managed to miraculously pass the class).
Kitty is stressing out about how behind she is in all her classes, even though everyone tells her she'll be fine. She'll probably be out of the hospital on Monday. Her IEP meeting is Tuesday. Finals start a week after that. We've got a request in for home bound. No idea what's going to happen.
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What good does it do anyone not to give kids like Bear and Kitty "real" grades? As long as they get As and Bs for substandard work they'll believe they're doing just fine.
The pap that teachers dish out to challenged students about being able to do whatever they want in life may be well intentioned but it's ultimately cruel when the child finds out they're never going to be a marine biologist or a fighter pilot or whatever unrealistic fantasy they had in mind.
I agree Miz Kizzle. It is ultimately cruel and the parents are usually the targets of their anger when reality rears it's ugly head. We try to help them be realistic by pointing out exactly what needs to be accomplished in order to achieve their goals - hoping that they will either step up or adjust those goals, but we are usually accused of being negative or unsupportive - when that is so... not our intention. One semester my son was given straight A's. He didn't earn them in the slightest. I was sick because I have kids who work really, really hard for C's and they were angry, my son was cocky and arrogant, shoving the card into everyone's face and it was a disaster. I don't know what the teachers goal was - I'm sure it had something to do with increasing his self-esteem (which doesn't seem to be a real problem based on his behaviors) but it was a disaster for US.
Kitty is capable (quite obviously) of holding it together quite nicely in the hospital and in other social situations so it makes me wonder exactly what her anxiety must really feel like. I sometimes think my son loses it because he simply feels uncomfortable in some way. Like, if he feels a twinge in his stomach and immediately is convinced he is starving to death and needs to eat NOW (which he actually does do) or he doesn't feel comfortable in a social situation and so he starts asking bizarre off the wall questions.
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