This blog is my place to vent and share resources with other parents of children of trauma. I try to be open and honest about my feelings in order to help others know they are not alone. Therapeutic parenting of adopted teenagers with RAD and other severe mental illnesses and issues (plus "neurotypical" teens) , is not easy, and there are time when I say what I feel... at the moment. We're all human!

Saturday, January 8, 2011

"You're Parannoying Me"

Bear doesn't like to be in the same room as other people. Not when he's getting dinner (we tend to serve our plates from the stove) - he'd rather wait until everyone's done. And especially not when he's doing chores. It's hard to find time to talk to him because I can't be cooking while he's washing dishes or chat with him while he's working on something.

Of course he doesn't seek me out very often. He talks best when there is something else to focus on like driving in the car or going on walks. Doing chores near each other would be good too, but he apparently can't handle that.

Today he was in a bad mood. No apparent reason, just that it was morning I guess. I was making lunch and he was sweeping the floor. When he needed to sweep where I was standing I obligingly moved, but that was still a problem apparently. As he mumbled that this was why he hated doing chores when people were in the kitchen (it's hard to find a time when people aren't in the kitchen by the way as this is a 6 person house with teens and the only phone the kids can use is there too, so there's always someone in there), I asked him what the problem was, since I'd moved when he needed me to.

He said, "You're parannoying me." Apparently having someone in the room makes him feel paranoid - which I knew, but I've never heard it phrased that way.

Well off to parannoy him some more since he's doing dishes now and I need to make lunch.


Tara - SanitySrchr said...

Parannoying Me! That's funny!

Mama Drama Times Two said...


GB's Mom said...

Made me laugh!

Kerrie said...

That's interesting, because Princess cannot be in a room by herself, except for sleeping and toileting. She follows me almost everywhere. AND she's hypervigilant- figure out how that works.

marythemom said...

Kerrie - definitely a difference in personality. I hear from a lot of friends that their children are chatterboxes. My kids rarely chatter.

Bear likes to be close enough to be totally aware of what's going on (hypervigilant!) and control it, without actually being a part of it.