If you remember the stolen cell phone that I mentioned here, We had left it up to the school to do the detective work and consequences because
we I get tired of being the bad guy. So far no one has claimed the cell phone (although Bear did claim someone had claimed it - presumably to end this). Beyond confirming it hadn't been claimed, I hadn't been able to get much out of the school. They investigated how many Michaels there were at the school (8), but they didn't bother to tell Bear he had to find out the kid's last name. Bear told us that the kid didn't want the phone back and that's why he hadn't claimed it. He said Michael's mom made Michael carry it and he didn't want it. Can you say "bull puckey?"
School's last day was Friday so I was pushing really hard to get this resolved. I finally got an e-mail from the Assistant Principal on Wednesday.
As for the phone, I've got a call in to Deputy A_____ (officer on duty at
the school) to see if the phone matches any reported missing/stolen. At present,
the information we have has not been enough to track down the owner. But without
it being reported stolen, it is difficult to consequence him for stealing. There
needs to be a victim for there to have been a crime, so I'm working to see if we
can identify a victim. Unless I find one though, I'm not in a position to
consequence him; the consequence for a stolen cell phone is a placement at the
Opportunity Center (like in school suspension, but on a closed campus with
other kids who have broken a major school rule - like fighting, bringing drugs
to school, bringing weapons to school... you know, all the kids I want Bear
hanging out with), so it is a big step and one that deserves more facts and
careful consideration. If I find out more, I'll pass it along. I hope to connect
with Officer A______ soon, but I don't know if he'll have anything to share or
I'm still furious that they did not pursue this - such as telling Bear that he HAD to tell the school the boy's last name or charging the phone. I responded with:
Since the cell phone is a “victim-less” crime, and therefore the school cannot
go forward with any consequences, we would like to pick the phone up to
get it charged and see if we can track down the owner ourselves. Please
let me know when this would be possible.
This morning we came upon Bear when he wasn’t expecting us to be home (we had to leave him home alone for the first time in quite awhile, but came back to grab the camera for Ponito's award ceremony). We noticed Bear had a pair of handcuffs on the counter. Since we had allowed him to hang out with a friend of the family who has shown poor judgment in giving Bear things (the boy who gave Bear the pop gun to fix that Bear took to school to trade for drugs a couple of Summers ago), we checked with the boy. The boy had loaned them to Bear. I sent Bear with Grandma right after I got home from lunch with the boy's mom to return the handcuffs.
This meant that Bear was not able to take his usually permanently attached backpack with him so I had an opportunity to search it and his room (Bear no longer hides things in his room, but cannot stand to throw things away which explains some of the things I find).
1. Two weeks worth of sample bottles of ADHD meds (the equivalent of speed) that he must have taken from our bathroom. Luckily all the pills were still there, although some were in a small bag in another pocket. This is the med that caused Bear to have an adverse reaction a few weeks ago. One bottle was wrapped in his hat in his backpack, the other in his inside jacket pocket with the bag of pills.
2. Also in the small bag – 2 tabs of Melatonin which is an over the counter sleep aide and 150mg of Lamictal which is a black box mood stabilizer - there is a possibility that Bear thought the Lamictal was Melatonin and that’s why he hadn’t taken it. He has had issues with refusing to take the Melatonin in the past, and keeping them somewhere in his room.
3. Hair in his trash can. Bear told us that someone in ROTC (I don’t remember if it was the Sergeant or the SRO) told him if he didn’t have his hair cut by uniform check that Thursday that they would buzz it. He claimed they had. Someone from ROTC said they had not cut it. If you haven’t seen Bear recently he was shaved completely bald last Thursday.
4. Also in his backpack I found an industrial box cutter, the kind you can extend the blade from with a push of a button. We assume it was a weapon as he has had issues with this in the past.
5. Miscellaneous contraband (not illegal, just not allowed in our house or in his
6. When we searched Bear, we discovered an iPod Shuffle 2G – green. Definitely not his. We assume it was stolen at school.
7. He did have time to hide almost anything once he knew I was looking (after the initial search).
Obviously we need to know if anyone at school has reported the loss of an iPod Shuffle.
Bear is now under line of sight supervision, but we are not sure what consequences to give. As always, advice/suggestions are appreciated.
Hubby came home early from work and confronted Bear (who was holing up in his room to pout and avoid the community service I had arranged with a neighbor). Hubby ordered Bear to strip (down to underwear) to look for contraband, and had a long conversation with him. Bear claimed the box cutter was to protect himself from a kid at school. He claimed he took the meds to school because he'd been having trouble sleeping and wanted some extra energy for exams, but decided not to take it because the drug presentations he was working on in school were "getting through to him" and he didn't want to do anything like that anymore (he then confessed to using and dealing drugs over 2 years ago before he entered the RTC). He claims he took the bottles the morning before when I was downstairs.
I'm a bit of a packrat and tend to hang onto meds in case one of the other kids needs them later or we alter doses in the future. The box didn't fit in the lock box (which wasn't locked anyway and was full - the kids take a lot). The box is in my bathroom, which can only be accessed through my bedroom, which our Bear is NEVER allowed to go in (because he's stolen things from our room before).
Luckily today was the last day of school and Bear had finals so apparently he wasn't able to sell/trade, or whatever them. The pills were all still there. I don't think he got into anything else.*sigh* One more thing to lock up.
I'm an idiot.