- It will let him get more realistically reacquainted with this grandfather that he has put on a pedestal.
- More realistically reacquainted with the rural lifestyle that he has put on a pedestal.
- The whole family would probably go, so Kitty would get a chance to get reacquainted with the grandfather she thinks hates her
- It will allow him much more freedom, but in a setting where there is a little less opportunity for him to get into trouble than in our urban part of the world.
- It will be a visit so may not trigger his abandonment issues and he will have reasons to come home.
- Trial run on meds and stuff - while we get his SSI/ Medicaid worked out here.
- Good excuse for us to get a Power of Attorney
- Gives us a break, and would allow me to work through the Summer if I get a job (Grandma is fine supervising the other kids, although Kitty doesn't handle it well).
- If we can find the money then we could tag it on the end of a trip to Nebraska and kill 2 birds with one stone.
- We might have difficulty getting him back - legally in TX and OK he's an adult, if he doesn't want to come back it would probably be impossible to get the police to help
- Adoption subsidy, getting switched over to NE Medicaid, not being there to sign legal stuff issues
- Handling meds
- He'd probably receive no psych services and therapy for the entire time he's gone
- Getting him there and back - probably drive which costs money
- Having to talk to the relatives to see if they'd even want him
- If he has a breakdown, meltdown or difficulties of any kind we won't be there to help - or document them
- Legally he's an adult - if something goes wrong he could have major legal trouble - and he'd be in another state.
- He'd get used to a LOT of freedoms and will probably be allowed to get a driver's license.
- We'd miss his 18th birthday and his adoption day (both at the end of July).
I'm sure there's a ton more pros and cons those are off the top of my head. I just don't know what to think about this.