Time to start searching again. Picked Bear up after school on Thursday. I'd let him stay after for 10 minutes to take an oral final exam in ROTC that he'd missed because of his ARD on Tuesday. When he got in the car he REEKED of tobacco chew/dip.
I didn't become a RAD mom yesterday so I waited till we got out of the car and I was walking ahead of him into the grocery store to ask, "So how long ago did you start using tobacco again?" And he answered! It was mumbled, but I think he said about a few months ago.
The rest of the grocery trip he started back peddling, and saying something about a crunch bar looking the same as tobacco (No idea what he was talking about). I just said, "I didn't see the tobacco on you, and you already admitted to it so just let this drop." When he kept going, I finally said "Bear, I'm not going to do anything about this, so quit trying to deny it and let it drop."
When Hubby talked to him about it, Bear said it was only one time and that I heard him wrong. Yea right.
Bear still reeks of tobacco, which makes me think there's a possibility that he really wasn't doing it for long before or I would have smelled him sooner. I searched his room, but found nothing much. Hubby refused to search his person and bag he had with him. *sigh*
So do I not let him do anything to earn money this Summer (not that he apparently needs money to buy tobacco since we don't give him any money now and he apparently has a never ending supply of candy, soda, and tobacco).
Do I keep him under line of sight supervision?
Do I make him view those pictures and films of people with mouth cancer? Obviously he's seen them before and it hasn't had any effect.
Do we punish him for this?
Do we ignore it?
Do we just chalk it up to one more reason not to trust him and continue as we have been?
I have absolutely NO idea what I'm going to do with him this Summer.
Did I mention school is officially out and we are now on Summer vacation?!! *eek*