My dad is a conservative republican (which is ironic because he's liberal in a lot of his other views), and loves to blast his e-mail list with Obama bashing cartoons, anti-democrat articles, economic predictions (he predicted the recession years before it happened)... and I love him anyway. I've requested that he not send them to me, but I guess he forgets. Obviously we don't see eye to eye... I'm a liberal social worker for goodness sake!
Recently he sent me a video, in an e-mail titled California Poster Girl. The video was titled "Parasites are Devouring the Country" and showed a pretty young African American girl in a nice apartment with expensive extensions, talking about how California provided the best EBT (Electronic Benefit Transfer) and all the money it provides, and how you can manipulate it to get more cash (daycare is paid for per child, and then you can have a friend watch your kids and split the money with her).
He wrote: "An excellent real-world explanation of the system."
Here was my response:
And then there are people like Hubby and I. Who are trying to make ends meet and supporting 2 special needs teenagers to adulthood so they will hopefully not perpetuate this cycle. We need these monies too. When Hubby was unemployed (but looking for a job), we had our kids on the free lunch program (we had a nice house and nice cars, but you can’t eat those). We get money from the state every month (adoption subsidies). My kids are on Medicaid, because their medications alone cost $2000/mo… each. They see therapists, psychiatrists, specialists… sometimes multiple times a week.
Granted it was probably their “welfare mom” who’s been “in school” for the 5 years I’ve known her, who has 5 kids with 5 different fathers, who probably drank and did drugs while pregnant and raising them, who “aged out” of the foster care system, who is mentally ill and abused herself… who caused them to be like this… but is that their fault?! Should they be punished?
They are mentally ill, have low IQs, are traumatized to the point of being unable to function in real life… and will probably never be able to be functioning, productive members of society. Through no fault of their own – and despite the fact that we worked as hard as we possibly could to help them, “fix” them, heal them. They are “broken” and this was “set” long before they came to us.
I agree the woman in this video is horrid. It’s true that some people take advantage of the system and share how with their friends. It’s also true that some “rich” people cheat on their taxes and share loopholes with their friends. Who is bilking the system for more?
Edited to add: I have NO evidence that my kids' biomom was ever on welfare, or drank or did drugs while pregnant. I was merely using this as a way of personalizing an example of why condemning all people on welfare/Medicaid is punishing people we know and love, not some random stranger on a video.