This blog is my place to vent and share resources with other parents of children of trauma. I try to be open and honest about my feelings in order to help others know they are not alone. Therapeutic parenting of adopted teenagers with RAD and other severe mental illnesses and issues (plus "neurotypical" teens) , is not easy, and there are time when I say what I feel... at the moment. We're all human!

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

New Year's Eve and Resolutions

We had an extremely quiet NYE. The kids stayed at Grandma's, except Bear who spent the night at a friend's. Our traditions include eating black eyed peas (the more you eat, the more luck you have - it's a Southern thing!) and to spend the day doing what you want to do all year. So Hubby and I

New Year's Resolutions:
Do this more often

Get more and quit leaving Hubby like this

Get more exercise so I stop looking like this
Find out more about attachment disorders in adults and work on my own healing

Find and get a good job

Give the house a good cleaning

Word for 2012

I used to do this, but haven't done it in years. My friend GB's Mom inspired me.

The word I've chosen this year is "PRESENT." As in being present and engaged in life (not gifts).

Since being diagnosed with a "Dismissive" attachment disorder (during Bear's thorough neuropsych evaluation), I've struggled with trying to figure out how to heal and work on this.

Part of Bear's neuropsych evaluation is a daily questionnaire where one of the questions is "How close did you feel to Bear today?" It hurts to check the box for "Not at all," and sometimes I chose, "Slightly," just because I can't stand to check "Not at all" every day.


GB's Mom said...

{{{Hugs}}} 2012... a better year!

Lisa said...

YOU were dx'd with "Dismissive Attachment Disorder"? I've never heard of that - now I need to google it. I wonder how many of us have acquired attachment disorders by trying so hard to hang on to kids who have zero attachment to us? just a being rejected 20 times a day in every way possible really going to help us heal? Hmmmm...