This blog is my place to vent and share resources with other parents of children of trauma. I try to be open and honest about my feelings in order to help others know they are not alone. Therapeutic parenting of adopted teenagers with RAD and other severe mental illnesses and issues (plus "neurotypical" teens) , is not easy, and there are time when I say what I feel... at the moment. We're all human!

Monday, December 14, 2009

Shaved head

Bear has been asking me for a couple of weeks to give him a haircut. ROTC has strict guidelines. The problem is he usually asks me at 8pm or later. Once or twice he's asked me on a weekend, but usually when something is going on, or I'm resting. The ROTC warned him if it didn't get cut they would shave him. So last week, they did.

Of course he says it's all my fault.

All I know is that for some reason I can't stand looking at his bald head. I'm not sure why. It could be because he kind of looks naked. It could be because I'm not that fond of looking at him to begin with (yes, I know that makes me sound like a horrible mother, hate me if you must - it's hard living with someone who doesn't like you and makes sure you know it). My latest theory is that he kind of looks like Voldemort (mostly from the back), which for some reason makes my skin crawl.

So I bought him some beanies and a cammo bandana to wear. Normally none of the boys are allowed to wear hats inside, but when I gave him the head covers I told him it wasn't optional. It really makes me nauseous. I picked caps I was pretty sure he would like (black and an olive that looks good with his cammo stuff), and he's been pretty good about wearing them. He already has a "5 o'clock shadow" so hopefully it won't be too bad by Christmas.

Maybe I'll take a picture of him bald (this one is photoshopped), but I doubt it.

Edited to add:  Found out later that he'd shaved his own head (left all his hair in his bedroom trashcan).  So he'd lied big time about the school doing it.  

1 comment:

Miz Kizzle said...

I like the bald look. It's muy macho. Grrrrr!