This blog is my place to vent and share resources with other parents of children of trauma. I try to be open and honest about my feelings in order to help others know they are not alone. Therapeutic parenting of adopted teenagers with RAD and other severe mental illnesses and issues (plus "neurotypical" teens) , is not easy, and there are time when I say what I feel... at the moment. We're all human!

Monday, October 12, 2009

I love you more

Parent comment at the Katharine Leslie seminar:

"My adopted child that we're having the hardest time with is my middle child. He is constantly saying, 'You love ___________ and ____________ more than me.' No matter how many times I say I love him.

I've asked him if he knows I love him, and he says, 'Yes, but...'

One day I told him, 'I love _________ (older bio child), because I gave birth to him and I have to. I love _________ (adopted younger biosibling to adopted child) because he's sweet and he's the youngest. You're an a**hole and I still love you, so I guess I love you more.'"

LOL! I just loved this!


Mama Drama Times Two said...

Awwwww. The Other Mother and I have often commented that our little guy is just a bottomless pit of insecurity (you hate me, why did you ever adopt me etc and no amount of reassurance is evr enough)But we still love him no matter what....

Anonymous said...

That's funny. Our darling Princess always asks why we don't love her and be nice to her like everyone else. I'll have to remember that one.