This blog is my place to vent and share resources with other parents of children of trauma. I try to be open and honest about my feelings in order to help others know they are not alone. Therapeutic parenting of adopted teenagers with RAD and other severe mental illnesses and issues (plus "neurotypical" teens) , is not easy, and there are time when I say what I feel... at the moment. We're all human!

Monday, February 2, 2009

The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly

The good - I got more done this weekend then usual.

The bad - because my internet access was down.

The ugly - Me after being unable to blog all weekend!

The good - my shingles are almost gone!

The bad - I finished off my anti-viral medication this morning, and half the family has the flu

The ugly - VOMIT - Hubby and Bob were vomiting all last night, and this morning Ponito had a fever too!

The good - Finally finished rearranging Bob's bedroom just the way she wants it- (before she got sick!).

The bad - A friend I haven't seen in 4-5 years came to visit in the middle of it (now she knows how cluttered and disgusting my house is!)

The ugly - now I have to actually start painting - and Kitty is intensely jealous.

The good - Bob is now 5'9" and 167lbs. She looks healthy and great.

The bad - Kitty is only 5'3" and 150lbs. She looks pregnant!

The ugly - At 5'7" I am now over 190lbs and gaining. We don't have the money to buy me clothes that can accommodate my "new" bust and buttocks.

The good - my friend's daughter took 2 garbage bags full of scraps home with her!

The bad - this still left a metric ton of scraps and fabric all over the house

The ugly - in rearranging Bob's room I now have 3 huge containers of scraps with no home, and while showing the stashes to friend's daughter, tons of fabric fell out of the precarious piles on shelves and is now covering the pool table.

The good - Kitty made it through a whole session talking about Biomom and Monday's meltdown without losing it.

The bad - I realize how far she has to go when it comes to relationships.

The ugly - Kitty identified all men, but big men in particular, as "mean and evil" and any constructive feedback as "yelling and criticizing" her. - Hubby is a "big" man.

The good - We were able to borrow some money from my parents to pay for health insurance for the company (and us) covering Kitty's January trip to the psychiatric hospital.

The bad - It was probably not paid in time to keep them from cancelling our February insurance, and the parents are tapped out.

The ugly - We do not have enough money to make payroll this month, so since Hubby was home sick, I got to tell everyone.

The good - so far, staff took our inability to pay the last two weeks' paycheck and mandatory one week of unpaid vacation pretty well.

The bad - I had to tell 2 of the staff via e-mail.

The ugly - I still have to tell them about the week of unpaid vacation tomorrow.

The good - so far Bear has had no reported trouble in his two out classes at the high school or on the bus home.

The bad - he managed to manipulate us into letting him try out for the baseball team (we didn't say "absolutely not," we only said," we don't think it's a good idea," and then stopped making an effort during try-outs when he realized he wasn't doing well.

The ugly - As an example, we mentioned access to the internet, in discussing working up to more trust. Bear is "remembering" this as permission to open a new internet account. (He lost these privileges when he got online at school and gave a total stranger our address and phone number.)
The good - January is finally over!
The bad - So far February is not off to a good start.
The ugly - the year is just starting!


Anonymous said...

Well, at least 1/3 of your life is positive.

I meant to tell you that I think your kids look more like you and DH than their bio-mom.

Keeping you in prayer, Mary. I really wish the other 2/3 would turn around.

Lisa said...

Hoping today was a better day...